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Intimacy is sharing a nervous system: two bodies, one feeling system.

What follows is a progression from Meeting to Sharing Spirituality — what can be called True Union (marriage).

  1. Feel deep physical attraction and energetic resonance — they amplify your state into one of arousal, excitement, joy.
  2. Make a connection based on shared life experience and strong embodied opinions about your life, play, work, purpose, family, sexuality, sense of humor.
  3. Deepen the connection by being trustworthy and of high integrity, while having adventures and bonding experiences, increasingly enjoying sexual energies and opening one another up.
  4. Become dependable for one another, while deepening friendship and building a life together based on shared values.
  5. While fighting, always assume both partners' nervous systems are instruments to teach each other to become less dissociated and stronger. Repair one another with what is called "co-regulation."
  6. If you can, share your spiritual experiences and energies and perspectives and practices, and at least for a while try each other's style of connection to god/love source.

Thomas is a men's coach working with men who want more from their lives — more aliveness, more connection, more freedom. If this resonated, apply for coaching or get in touch.